5 life lessons I’d pay to have learned sooner

Dear younger me,

Subject: 5 Life Lessons I'd pay to have learned sooner.

Many people have told you that you are intelligent above your years, and they are correct. You possess an exceptional level of emotional intelligence and self-awareness. But I hope you never lose sight of the idea that there is still so much to learn. Life is filled with lessons. It's not possible to grow without learning a lesson.

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.
                                 -Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are constantly being torn between the world slapping words in your ears and your thoughts that are blossoming. 

Many things in life might appear to be difficult every now and then in this never-ending pandemic. Some days, we need reminders to help us notice the positive aspects of life. And we feel that if there is a person who could remind us every day, it would be better. Although I cannot be with you at every point of your life, I have come up with a fascinating and valuable piece of information.

Here are some of the life lessons I wish I'd learned sooner, to become the unapologetic YOU. 

Yours lovingly,

Ever-So-Slightly-Older Me

 

1.  Know and love Yourself first

 

There is a dilemma within you and your surroundings because you, yourself, have not been able to thoroughly understand who you are.  The path inward is one of the most important and satisfying aspects of your journey. Going where no one has gone before or treading the terrain you have instead left untouched, can be dark and dangerous. But that's what makes it so vital and exciting—and turns you into a pathfinder in the process. Because wholly understanding and accepting oneself is a huge but essential task if you want to form genuine, long-lasting relationships within yourself and your surroundings.

2. Vulnerability is Bravery

I know social media is full of posts, graphics, and quotes on how it's OK not to be OK! But I think the power of vulnerability is understated.

You may believe that telling the truth about your experiences, even the grief and heartbreak you've endured, is small and petty. That, unfortunately, is a lie we tell ourselves

Showing up your wounds and all and baring your soul is the actual act of bravery. Because we all have been harmed in some way. That is what distinguishes us as human beings. Those scars are what makes us unique. And discussing it is what draws us closer together in a profound and meaningful way.

Your past has no power over you unless you keep it hidden from view. But it can't stand up to the truth's light. People will flock to this brightness like bees to a light bulb.

The vulnerability has a magical quality to it. And that magic is irresistible. And then there's the healing.

3. Resistance is futile

In life, you really only have two options: accept what you can't change or change what you can't accept.

I am sure you didn't understand what it meant. Reread it.  The majority of life's events fall into the first category. For the most part, you can't prevent death, disease, or interruption in various ways. But it doesn't mean that you can't fight the hard truth of things as they are. You expected things to be different. And now that they are not, you're crushed and upset, and you're at a loss and don't know what to do.

I'll tell you precisely what you have to do: You must learn how to lean into twists and turns of life. They are not going anywhere. So put an end to the resistance. It has no purpose other than to make you unhappy.

Learn to accommodate and embrace it.

4. Small growth is indeed development

Regardless of what others may believe or say, you are constantly evolving. Even when you are facing your most difficult challenge, you are learning and growing from it. Even if it's only a small and slow step forward, it's still progress.

Allow yourself to be proud of how far you've come and how much you've overcome. Work remains to be done, and improvements to your life may be made, but for now, grow. Small increments of growth are a sign of progress. Never underestimate how far you've come. In the past, you have crossed difficult moments in your life. Every step forward, no matter how small, is a stride ahead.

 5. Words Matter a lot

 Witchcraft lies on your tongue
                -Shakespeare

I cannot emphasize enough that words matter. Every word that comes out of your mouth is as essential as every breath you take in.

 

Words can heal suffering people and they can also rip the joy out of the human soul. Make it a habit always to think before you speak. “If only words could make you bleed” -unknown. Words are powerful than those poisonous arrows.

Speak wisely. Speak nice.

Here I would like to quote that, in history, many great people mentioned,
"My Pen is more powerful than a sword".
By that, they meant to show how powerful words are!

As the title of the post suggests, I learnt these five lessons the hard way. In this everlasting pandemic, you NEED these lessons to have a fulfilled life. I do hope that whoever reads this post, thinks, reflects and transforms these lessons into realities.

Written by Cherish Mundhra

Also, if you have any other important things and feel that I have missed them, feel free to comment below. All criticisms are appreciated.

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